Sunday, July 7, 2013

Grief


I don’t use my front door often.  Sometimes packages will sit there for a few days without my  noticing them.  I should really check daily, but life intervenes and I am easily distracted.  I managed to notice it, brought it in, and wondered what I had ordered from Amazon, I hadn’t ordered anything, had I?  It was a package from a former high school classmate who read on FaceBook that I had just put down my dog, Abby.  Abby was my best girl.  Anyone who has beloved pets knows that there is a special bond between a dog & his person.  No one shows love like a dog.  They are happy to see you every day, no matter what.  They openly show their love for us, they hold nothing back.  They don’t judge, they only love.  Animals are so much more loyal than fickle humans.  We are flawed in that respect.  Animals are honest to a fault.
Anyway, Shaye sent me the most amazing book, “The last will & testament of an extremely distinguished dog, by Eugene O’Niell.”  It took me time to read it as it makes me really miss my big girl.  I read a bit & cry a little.  I am sure you already know that I am a long time sap.  This book says so eloquently what animals continually show us.  We have much to learn about unconditional love and we should take the time to learn these very important things in life from them.  Things are just things.  What is important is your relationships we have with one another.  They are patient teachers, even with those of us who are stubborn, or a little slow.  Anyone who has lost a beloved pet needs to read this book.  We need to spread love & faith in the world.

I so miss my girl, but hesitate to get another dog any time soon.  It would be unfair of me to replace my girl when I am still grieving her absence.  Also, while undergoing treatment it would be unfair to get a dog when I am so tired I can’t walk him or her.  It wouldn’t be fair of me to adopt another dog at this time.  I’ll wait until my heart doesn’t hurt so much.  I’d also hate to compare a new pup to my wonderful girl.

I brought my girl home Monday last week.  In the book there is a page that says; “Whenever you visit my grave, say to yourselves with regret but also with happiness in your hearts at the remembrance of my long, happy life with you; ‘Here lies one who loved us and whom we loved.”  When I finally find that final resting place for her, I will remember this book.  Some day I'll adopt another dog.  I am sure, much like Abby, he or she will find me.  It will take time, but I will adopt again.

Thank you Shaye!  I will never realize the depth of your grief for your daughter.  I can't pretend to know what that is like.  I would never presume to try.  You gave me a comfort in my grief with your kindness.  For that I am grateful.  Please let me know if I can do the same for you.  I miss my girl every day.
When we grieve those we love, we carry them with us always.  We bring the love they gave us into our hearts, it is right that we should spread that love to others.
Love & many, many Hugs,
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